We're engaged! It happened on 22 September, 2010 which was also the autumnal equinox, yay! We wrote the story from both our points of view -- Laura's being the main plot and my story as "behind the scenes". My story ended up being much longer but to be fair, the proposal required a lot more work on my part!
Laura's Story:
I knew the proposal was coming soon. I just did not realize how soon! Henry and I had been talking about doing a civil ceremony in Ontario in Summer 2011 (in case we needed to be married for visa purposes) and then doing a wedding in BC in Summer 2012. This was until he comes up to me and says, “Maybe we should move the wedding up to Summer 2011, since in 2012 I will be finishing my masters and we will be moving!" I then exclaimed “2011… Oh my gosh! It takes a year to plan a wedding! I would only have 10 months! If you want to do that then propose to me so I can start planning!”
Henry decided he liked the idea of a summer 2011 wedding more and more. So he told me he would propose to me soon. One day as I had an opening shift at work, Henry had to go to the bank (across from my work). Since he knew I was at work and could not leave the store he took the opportunity to look at rings. I was aware he was doing this, and it became very obvious when he keep making surprise visits to my store to ask me questions about what type of rings I like. Since I did not know what he was talking about, he decided he would show me pictures of different ring types when I got home that night.
So that night after Henry showed me different types of rings he decided to go back to the mall because he wanted to take another look at what Ben Moss had. Since he was going out I sent him to pick up a few items (such as crackers). So when he came back from the store he told me he did not buy anything from Ben Moss. Which I assumed meant that he did not buy a ring anywhere. He worded it in a sneaky way!
Since I cannot stand surprises (I am the kid that opened all their x-mas gifts way before), he decided to try and drive me crazy. Henry told me that there was a hint to the ring, and he left it in the car. I figured it was just a business card or something silly but I could not resist finding out. I grabbed Henry's keys and went to the car, which I proceeded to tear apart. After awhile of not finding anything, I moved Henry away from the car and shut the doors (I was still inside). I then locked myself in the car, and dangled Henry’s car (and house) keys in front of him. I had to shake the keys three times before he figured out that I had him trapped! I was able to get the location of the surprise out of him (it was in a bag in the trunk). I opened it up and found a diamond warranty from People's. I was surprised since I did not think he got anything so soon.
We went back up stairs and I asked him when he would really propose. He told me very soon, which I figured would be in a week or something. Henry said he was feeling hungry and asked me to make him my special cheese and crackers (with the crackers he just bought). I joked with Henry and asked him “What did you do? Hide it in the cheese?” Then I go to open the cracker box and I see a weird grey thing in the crackers. I was thinking “What the hell is this thing in my crackers, did we get a bad box?” I pulled it out and it was a ring box. Then I went “oh my gosh” turned to my right and saw Henry down on one knee. He told me that he loved me and that we are so great together, then he asked me to marry him. I said “yes!”. Then I asked “wait a second did you actually want cheese and crackers? Are you hungry?” He said, “Nope”. I still cannot figure out how he got from his chair in the living room to on his knees beside me, without me seeing him.
I knew it was coming and Henry still managed to surprise me, which is the craziest part! I was completely off guard and it was very sweet.
Henry's Story:
At this point in our relationship, we had been together for 5 years (anniversary was last week) and we had both discussed where we wanted to go with our relationship. Obviously, we were serious and committed to each other or I would not have asked her to move all the way to Kingston with me! So while it was something we both knew was coming, my goal was to surprise her and/or give her a fun story to tell.
Finding a ring was pleasantly painless. It only took me several hours over two days to finish shopping since the only jewelers in Kingston were downtown and at the mall. With everything condensed in two places, it made my life a lot easier! I looked at a few places downtown after school on Tuesday but didn't really find anything that felt right.
On Wednesday, Laura had an early shift at the mall and I had an appointment at the bank to figure out my tax free savings account so she took me to the mall instead of school. After finishing at the bank, I spent the morning shopping for rings at the many jewelers in the mall. Laura knew what I was up to (it's hard to hide things when you live together and share a car!) but I didn't mind since she wouldn't know what I would eventually decide upon anyways. Over the next few hours, I went to each jeweler, described what I was looking for and picked one or two favourites from each. The jewelers were generally very nice (I guess it's their job!) and wrote my favourites on their business card so I could keep track of everything. One place was really pushy with their sales though -- I felt like I was listening to an infomerical!
Laura and I had set a budget before I left so I had some guidance in finding a ring. Within our budget, each ring was generally great in one aspect, good in others, and not-so-good in the rest. So I had to find out which aspects were important to me and Laura (ie. quality of gem vs. size, etc.) . After collecting cards from each place, with several different types of rings, I left to think them over.
Despite arriving at school just before lunch time (and then having lunch!), and despite being preoccupied with thoughts of the rings, I still managed a semi productive day at school. After finishing her shift, Laura picked me up from school and we went home. I wanted to find her a ring that she would love while still keeping her in the dark of the specific ring I would eventually buy, so I showed her some generic ring images from Google to find out her preferences. I kind of felt like an optometrist (which is better, one? or two?). In an attempt to be sneaky I threw in some "placebo" images of ring types that I didn't see.
After dinner, I thought about what I have seen and heard today and felt more overwhelmed than informed! But then as I flipped through the cards, I remember one ring I really liked and it matched Laura's preferences. However, I wanted to go back to Ben Moss (the first jeweler) since I didn't really know what to look for the first time. Also, we needed to buy some crackers for Laura's lunch the next day so I figured I would go take another look.
I made it to the mall an hour before closing and went back to Ben Moss. But I didn't see anything that "felt right". So I went back to People's and took another look at the ring I had in mind earlier. It was just like I remembered it! I actually wasn't planning on buying a ring that night (but wasn't planning
not to either) but it felt like the right thing to do. I don't make many big decisions impulsively but I decided to buy the ring right then. It turns out that it wouldn't be my only impulsive decision that night! But actually, it was a pretty safe decision since there was a 100-day return policy.
As I left the mall, I felt pretty good since ring shopping was over! (It was kind of fun but very time consuming). Then I realised... d'oh, I don't have a backpack...how am I going to bring the ring into the apartment without Laura realising what I had bought!! I decided to think it over while I bought the crackers (my original mission). My desperate backup plan was to drive to my office and lock the ring in my locking file cabinet. I figured that if no one knows where I hid it, it should be safe until the next morning. But I still wasn't comfortable with that. Luckily, when I bought the box of Breton crackers (and taco mix since it was on sale), I noticed, hmm it's width is approximately the same size as the ring box! When I got back to our building, I tested this theory while parked in the parkade.
It fitted perfectly! So I removed the bag of crackers from the box, put the ring box at the bottom, removed a handful of crackers from the bag and stuck the bag back on top. Perfect! I just hope Laura doesn't notice that the box had been opened. The ring box also came in a black bag that said PEOPLE'S in big letters and it came with the lifetime protection plan paperwork. I couldn't bring that in the apartment either! I decided to turn the bag inside out (so it just looks like a plain black bag), put the paperwork inside and left it in the trunk along with the other car-related stuff (flashlight, rags, etc.). My plan was to pick that up the next morning before heading to school and then hiding it in my office.
So with the ring safely inside the crackers, and all evidence hidden, I went up to our apartment hoping Laura won't notice the cracker box had been opened. Luckily she was on the phone with her mom so it was easy to stick the crackers quickly in the cupboard. Now all I had to do was keep quiet and take the ring out of the cracker box in the morning when I left for school (while Laura was still asleep).
But I couldn't keep completely quiet -- I decided to tease/torture her a bit and said that there is a hint to whether I bought any rings in the car if she looked carefully enough. She went down to the garage with me when I took down the garbage and looked in the car. She overlooked the bag for awhile as it was with the "car stuff" but she eventually forced me to tell her that it was somewhere in the trunk (see her story above). I had originally planned for her to find the bag/paperwork so she knew I did have a ring. But we were having a lot of fun with the "scavenger hunt" that it just felt like the right night to propose. Two major impulsive decisions in one night!
So after she found the "hint", she was really excited and we went back upstairs. My plan was working -- it felt like the big adventure of the night was finding that paperwork and her knowing that I've gotten a ring from People's. I then asked her to make us some cheese and crackers as a snack to celebrate her scavenger hunt success. I was extremely nervous as she got the ingredients -- what if she doesn't find the ring! When she opened the box from the bottom end, I was about to panic! (I thought she would open it from the top, remove the bag of crackers and see the ring box). Luckily it still worked because she opened the bottom and found a grey box, and in that moment of confusion, I was able to get down on one knee and ask the question! She was so surprised!! And she said yes! Mission Accomplished!
